Gender Euphoria - Phases Archive

Sometimes it requires a bit of effort to maintain other people's attention to [feeling seen and unapologetic in my identity]. It's delicious when it just happens. So it was easiest in the community because there's an understanding that someone's pronouns are what their pronouns are. You just use them. It's really uncomplicated. That's not really true in the rest of the world, is my experience. So in my current religious community, it's been slow getting that to work, but it's still great. I still do get gender euphoria when people gender me correctly. There was a friend of mine giving a talk recently, and he referenced my previous talk in it and he correctly gendered me every time he mentioned me. And I was sitting in the audience, right? But it’s unevenly distributed, that sort of thing.

I think people perhaps expect androgyny of me. I've had that with at least two people who are reasonably close to me. They're more like colleagues, but they struggle because I look like a man and when they say that, I find it really difficult.